How to Find Other Witches: A Guide to Building Your Witchcraft Community

How To Find Other Witches

Witchcraft is often a solitary practice. Even in fairy tales and folklore, the witch is usually a mysterious woman living alone (sometimes with a cat), brewing up magic that only she understands.

But it doesn’t have to be lonely.

One of the most common questions I get in my DMs is: “How do I find other witches?” or “How can I make witchy friends?”

We want to share the things we’re learning. We want people to ask questions with. We want to talk tarot and herbs and energy. We want to gather under the full moon, light a fire, and fucking dance.

And yet, even with a thousand witchcraft forums, groups, and Discord servers at our fingertips… it can still feel hard to truly connect.

So no, I don’t have all the answers. But I do have some thoughts on how to find (or build) a witchcraft community that actually feels good. Whether you’re in a busy city, a tiny village, or an actual spooky cottage in the woods with your cat, here are some ways to start.

What Kind of Witchy Community Are You Looking For?

The more clear you can get on what it is you are seeking - the more specific you can be in finding it.

Are you looking...

• for a new witchy best mate?

• to learn witchcraft from, and with others?

• casual online chat you can dip in and out of?

• in person sabbat / moon celebrations - with fire and food?

• A little bit of everything listed here?

There's lots of options, but it all really depends on how willing you are to put yourself out there.

Why Finding Community as a Witch Can Feel So Hard

I'm willing to bet that you already have the skills to google "Pagan Meet Ups In My Area" or "Witchcraft Workshops Near Me". So really, that's not the problem.

Sure - if you live rurally, there may be less opportunities, so you might need to be more creative. But - you already know that reading this blog isn't going to create more groups in your area right?

A lot of witches are not only solitary, but we are full-on introverts, neurodivergent, or both. So finding the groups really isn't the problem - attending them is.

I you're craving witchy community, it’s worth asking:

Is it true that there’s “nothing out there”? Or is fear getting in the way?

It’s okay if the answer is the second one. You’re not alone.

Communities of all kinds are built on forming connections with other people, and I'm not denying making new friends as an adult is really tricky. But it is absolutely impossible if you don't even put yourself out there.

How to Overcome Social Anxiety Around Witchy Events

OK - Now we are getting closer to the actual problem!

Again, I don't have all the answers here, and of course it massively depends on how intense that anxiety is.

One thing that I have found to be true for myself - is that often the more I do something that makes me (needlessly) anxious, the easier it gets.

In my professional (non-witchy) life, I am a musician. I studied music for 5 solid years, but I fucked up assessments for 4 of those years due to stage-fright. In the final year of my degree, I realised that I couldn't afford to fuck up any more, and I needed to master my anxiety. So I purposely booked something like 8 gigs in 6 weeks in the run up to my final performance, so that by the time I walked on stage, it felt normal and natural - even exciting.

I learned that the part of the brain that makes us feel nervous (the amygdala), is the exact same part of the brain that makes us feel excited - AND it does it in the exact same way! It releases adrenaline, increases our heart rate, and makes our palms sweat etc. The only difference between anxiety and excitement is whether or not our brain is reacting to positive or negative stimulus.

We actually have the power to re-frame our social anxiety as social excitement - but it takes practice.

Imagine booking that Witchy Workshop you've seen online, and on the day, instead of being filled with dread over having to actually attend (and maybe even cancelling)- you feel excited for the people you might meet, and the things you might learn.

Imagine the opportunities for connection that would be available to you, if you walked into the room, thrilled to introduce yourself to the people there, instead of terrified to speak to anyone (and perhaps later annoyed that no one tried to speak to you).

It takes practice. And patience. But the best way to overcome it, is to make yourself do it, and then make yourself do it again.

It's also worth realising that you're probably not the only one there feeling that anxiety! Could you be the person who helps someone else feel seen and accepted instead of part of the "why didn't they speak to me?" problem?

Start Small: Witchy Friendship Begins With Baby Steps

If social situations already make you anxious, adding the word “witchcraft” into the mix can bring a whole new level of fear.

Because “witch” means so many different things - even to other witches.

Because someone else’s practice might look completely different to yours… and what if they tell you you’re doing it wrong?

Because your religious mother-in-law or conservative boss might find out and make your life harder.

If you already struggle to attend a dinner with people you do know and trust, putting yourself out there in this way could feel completely overwhelming.

So? Start small.

Start by going to something only slightly witchcraft adjacent - with someone who loves you already.

I met my best witchy friend at a gig (technically we had met before that - but were nothing close to friends).

We decided to get a coffee soon after to discuss - the gig.

Then we happened to end up talking about Tarot Cards, and then spend the rest of the day strolling around all the witchy shops in London.

This was 10 years ago. And now we live in totally different parts of the country - but we still text at least weekly (love you very much L if you are reading this <3 ).

Look Beyond Witchcraft to Find Witchy Friends

My honest advice for most introverts, trying to make Witchy Friends - is to seek them out outside of Witchcraft. Of course it would be lovely to stride into a ready made coven - with your ideal new besties just waiting for your arrival. But that could take a lot of time, and also a lot of confidence.

Ask yourself, what Witchcraft Adjacent hobbies do you have, that you could engage in with less anxiety? Things like:

• Community Gardening

• Foraging Groups

• Knitting Circles

• Life Drawing

• D&D

• Folk Music Making / Gigs

• Hiking / Walking Groups

• Women's Circles

• Sober Girlie Groups

The witches are all around you! It might take a few goes but, as you naturally start to build relationships with these people - I bet you start to spot them.

At some point, if you are being your authentic self (which is the only way to make true friends btw), you are bound to say something like:

"Aw, this is so funny - my tarot cards said this EXACT THING was going to happen..."

"Not to be too woo but - I'm blaming the fucking mercury retrograde..."

"I actually wear this stone because..."

And sometimes, someone will go:

"Oh wow! What deck do you use?"

"AND it was a full moon the other day..."

"It's so pretty - I have a quartz bracelet at home..."

Or at the very least;

"Oh that's interesting - could you tell me more about it?"

And if they don't - that's fine too. You are still making friends - even if they aren't the witchy kind.

How to Start Your Own Witchy Circle or Coven

I wont spend long on this but, if you wish there was a local, welcoming, witchy scene - with bonfires, and homemade food, and group rituals, and dancing - you could start it yourself.

I know. It would be scary. And also you are very busy. And also what if nobody came? And also, what if loads of people came and they were all awful? And also, that sounds like a lot of admin.

There will always be reasons not to do something - but we also can't spend our lives waiting for other people to do things for us.

I started a small witchy walking group in Glasgow - just by posting some fliers around the west end and in local witchy shops. You have the skills you need to create something yopu love for yourself.

Where to Find Witchy Friends Online

I'll be honest.

I'm not great at making internet friends.

I am a very in-person kind of person.

But I also know a lot of people are not like that.

And why shouldn't you seek out friendship and community in the digital space if that's something that makes you feel more comfortable?

There's loads of opportunities to make openly-witchy friends online!

• Reddit – r/witchcraft and r/babywitch are full of questions, advice, and chaotic beginner energy.

• Discord servers – Search for ones that align with your interests (tarot, moon magic, secular witchcraft, etc.)

• Facebook Groups – Still a goldmine if you can handle the notifications.

• Instagram & TikTok – Follow witches who make you feel inspired, not inadequate. Comment. Start conversations. Community starts with connection.

• AND OF COURSE there's my Witchy Whatsapp Group, which you can join here!

I run a free WhatsApp group for witchy folk, beginners, creatives, and curious souls (women / non-binary people only). It’s low-pressure, seasonal, and full of people figuring it out together.

You can join us! But do check out the rules pinned in the Announcements Thread before posting.

Still Struggling to Find Your People? I’ve Got You

I hope you have found this post useful. I know there's a lot of "Witchy Community" posts that will focus on specific online groups, metaphysical shops, and Seasonal gatherings, and I'm sure that if that's what you are looking for you can easily find that information. I've tried to write something a bit different - and hopefully more practical.

But just know, if you get really stuck - my dms are always open - I'll be your witchy pal :)